Follow the leader

Follow the leader

The family constellation has a set order.  Set by nature, set by G-d.   The parents are the leaders.    Not because they’re smarter.  Kids can be more educated than their parents.    Not because they’re...
Keep adding light

Keep adding light

As Chanukah progresses and we add light each day, let’s add light to our relationships.  Rav A.Y. Hacohen Kook whose ‘Ahavat Yisrael’ was exemplary wrote: “Every person should know that within him glimmers a candle”.   Indeed, according to Jewish...
Let there be light

Let there be light

At this time of the year daylight dwindles to a minimum as the hours of darkness increase.   Perfectly timed, it’s when we ‘add light’ celebrating Chanukah, the festival of lights.  Light or lack of it affects us in many ways.  We perceive colors...
The secret formula

The secret formula

‘Relationships’ are all the craze.  Parents are in a constant quest for the ideal relationship with their children.    I have no doubt that whoever would come up with the formula for the ideal relationship would surely pocket a Nobel...
Sibling rivalry-the myth

Sibling rivalry-the myth

It’s been discussed before, and will probably come up again… Truth be told, this issue is constant in the average family and seems to manifest itself in many forms and versions.  It’s become a ‘given’… We relate to it as an inseparable part of raising...