Many aspects of parenting that we take for granted during routine times acquire a new intensity during times of crisis. A typical ‘time of crisis’ is the ongoing war in Israel these days.
One of my sons, who is recruited, was slated for a short leave over the weekend. I discussed it with my daughter-in-law, who deliberated whether to tell their daughters, ages 3.5 and 1.5, respectively, that Aba is coming home for Shabbat. On the one hand, she wanted to share the excitement and anticipation after his being away for nearly three weeks. It was clear that even at that age, they missed him. On the other hand, these matters are prone to sudden changes on short notice, and she didn’t want them to be disappointed if the leave were to be canceled.
My input was that even if she doesn’t tell them that he’s coming, they will feel it. The fact that she knows is enough, and the good vibes will transmit to them. They will no doubt perceive her happy anticipation without a word being said. Children have the uncanny ability to sense their parents’ (especially mothers’) mindset and mood with sensors that any military intelligence unit would gladly utilize, no doubt.
Scientists have yet to explain this phenomenon, yet there is no doubt that it exists. The energetic connection that surpasses time and distance is inherent from birth. Sometimes, it may be harder to discern, but it’s there.
What do we learn from this that we can utilize at any time?
We learn that we don’t have to go to great lengths to explain or clarify where we’re at. When we trust their inborn instinct to sense what we feel, we can avoid excessive wasted energy and, quite often, unnecessary negative dynamics.
Try it at home, anytime.
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